I was always asking myself things like; what is my purpose on this planet? Is it to be an emotional and physical punching bag for others who claim that they love me? Was I so bad in another life that I am being paid back in this life? Is this happening to me because I had an abortion when I was younger and took that life that I had been blessed with? Am I so unlovable? Am I meant to be alone? Why do the people I love always hurt me? I guess I’m meant to be alone because maybe I’m not worth it. Pretty depressing right? But I’m sure many of you on the receiving end of bad behaviour have asked yourselves these questions or ones like them, and many more.
Now I’m going to give you something to consider? Think about what I am about to say, before you dismiss it. Ready?
We have brought every single thing that happens into our lives, ourselves. No one is responsible for what happens to you, other than you. Let me allow you to chew on that for a moment. No one can treat us badly unless we allow it.
We make most of our decisions based on the negative input from that loud voice in our head – ego, rather than the quieter voice in our gut – our true higher self, our soul, our guides…whatever your belief, it is that higher consciousness that would rarely lead your astray, if you would just listen. We hear it…but much of the time what “the gut” wants us to do…the direction that it is asking us to take…is too hard, we feel the price is too high. Every cell in our being…if we are true to ourselves…knows it is what we must do, but for some reason we choose the loud mouth in our head that makes us doubt ourselves, makes us feel bad, judge ourselves poorly and allows us to feel inadequate, or actually as if we derserve the situation we find ourselves in. What is that all about? Is it easier to allow ourselves to suffer than to step away and heal ourselves, putting an end to the bad behaviour?
Let me just say this, if you believe nothing else I say, believe this…you are worthy and bad treatment is not a punishment you deserve under any circumstances unless of course you have broken some major rules, like murder, rape, etc or you are the abuser, and then my friend, the universe has a special way of dealing with that Karma, and that is not for me say. But whomever you are, we are all connected to each other, always, and in some cases those connections get corroded and rusty, but we are never, ever disconnected. So if you know or feel that your connection is not strong, it can always be strengthened, you just have to want to do it, I mean really want to do it. Like an alcoholic, no one can help, until that person, is ready for help.