If you’re like most people, your self esteem, the psychological term given to describe the way you feel about your worth, value and competence as an individual could use a bit of a boost.
Life can be challenging at the best of times. But, if you struggle with low self esteem it can make living almost unbearable as it impacts your ability to complete tasks, keep healthy relationships, make a living, feel good on a day-to-day basis and otherwise fulfill your potential.
You might be confident and feel a high level of self esteem in your professional life for example, but feel incompetent or subpar when it comes to your romantic relationship. Or, you might have a high level of self esteem socially with your peers, but feel inadequate with your perceived intellectual intelligence. In this way, your personal experience with self esteem is often unique.
Having low self-esteem predisposes you to feeling and behaving in certain ways, which may include people pleasing, a lack of self confidence, faulty beliefs about yourself, a critical inner dialog, an inability to know who and when to trust, rigidity and perfectionism, worry and anxiety, neediness, poor boundaries, ineffective communication skills, a pattern of dysfunctional relationships and either aggressive, passive, or passive-aggressive behaviour.
The burden of coping with any of these cognitive, emotional and behavioural symptoms often takes a toll on your well-being and quality of life.
Fortunately, research shows that with time and effort you can improve the level of your self esteem at any stage of your life. So, what exactly can you do to increase it?
Although it can be challenging, increasing your self esteem is worth your effort and commitment. If you find yourself struggling, you don’t have to do it alone. Working with a counsellor or psychotherapist that specializes in working with self esteem can provide you with the skills, support, encouragement and motivation to succeed.
Susan Blackburn is a Registered Psychologist providing Individual and Couples Counselling. She is registered with the College of Psychologists of Ontario, a member of the Ontario Psychological Association and has a M.A. degree in Counselling Psychology from the Adler School in Chicago, a B.A. (Honours) from York University and a B.Sc. in Business from the University of Phoenix.
Credentials include being a published author and several guest appearances on television and radio as an expert therapist including That Channel’s ‘Extraordinary Women TV’, the W Network’s ‘Style by Jury’ and Gail Vaz-Oxlade’s (of ‘Til Debt Do Us Part) show, ‘Princess’. Susan Blackburn Psychology