By: Sheri Phillips-Snaychuk May 13, 2015

How about a better relationship with yourself

Clients often come to me and are unclear what they want. They may think they want a better job, better relationships, better confidence, or better at negotiating. Not that there is anything wrong with wanting these things, but I am not offering any of these things.

I am not a recruiter, mind reader or expert on people and their ambitions. I like to say to clients that you are the expert on you, I am the expert on what I do. The issue is about transformation and healing. My clients come to me because they are suffering, unhappy, emotionally dis-regulated, etc. Initially, it is believed that if something changes externally to them that will equal relief and feeling better. It might a first, but the problem is that all the reasons people come into see me initially are not constant. We cannot control our work environment all the time. We cannot control how people will act all the time when we are in relation with them. And, I am sorry to say, we cannot always have confidence all the time in every situation. Impossible to predict anything, for the most part, that happens outside of us.

So what do we want if we don’t really want the dream job, the perfect relationship, confidence, self-esteem, etc.? How about a better relationship with yourself? How about a better regulation of you and your emotional wellbeing? How about better acceptance of you and how you are in your life? How about being better at how you are able to handle the external unpredictability. All these internal factors you will be able to control and predict much better… Try it!

Sheri, owner of Sheri Phillips-Snaychuk Counselling Services in Vancouver, BC has been helping people in the field for over ten years working in a multitude of capacities from individual counselling, research, assessment, and foster care support. Her passion, experience, and expertise focuses mainly around trauma, suicide, and depression, however, she has helped people with other or similar issues.
Sheri deeply believes, and is committed to, the healing ability of people and that people can overcome great pain and suffering through one’s own strength and through dedication in relations with other people and within the therapeutic relationship.

She is highly regarded for her compassion, care, curiosity, non-judgmental stance, insight, dedication, and patience among her clients.

Sheri's goal is to help clients to reconnect with themselves and to come to a deeper understanding and way of being in the world. Pain and suffering can be transformed by developing a different way of being with one’s self that is nurturing and caring.